Description
For this assignment, write an analysis of attachment in your own life. Within your analysis, be sure to address the following:
What experiences did you have as a child that your primary caregiver(s) provided or removed a “safe haven” and “secure base” for you?
What attachment injuries have you experienced in your life? (Note: These do not need to be intensely traumatic. Also, please do not share any information that you do not want your instructor to know. As an example of a non-extreme attachment injury, there once was a boy who worked hard to earn the interest of his parents. He tried to do many things to please them, but they always seemed to have other interests. One year, in school, he sang in the school choir and practiced all semester for the end-of-term concert. He informed his parents of the date of the concert at the beginning of the term, and they indicated that they would be there. However, on the night of the concert, the parents did not show up because they were invited to a social with some friends. After the concert, all of the other singers had friends and family join them for an end-of-term celebration party. Since this boy did not have anyone with him at the party, he ended up taking down the choir risers alone, while everyone else celebrated their months of work and success at the concert. At the end of the night, the boy found a ride home with another member of the choir.)
What attachment style would you say that you had as a child? Support your response to this item with details that would substantiate the answer based on attachment theory.
Explain how you understand your current relationships through an attachment lens. Consider at least two of your relational identities (e.g., parent, partner, friend, etc.).
What could be done to improve your attachment security with significant others in your life?
What can you do to provide a “safe haven” and “secure base” for your children and/or other important people in your life?